wiccanpride

    kinda sad here

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 02:38 PM [General]

    I went for my test at at&t and i was called like 1/2 hour after and they said i failed the test by 1 point to make sure i re apply in 6 months. I got a call to turn on the news. it seems that they are laying off more then 12,000. So did i really fail the test or did they not just tell us before we took it that no one will be hired. Then when i heard her say 3 times make sure u re apply in 6 months, whats that mean? can i be right about passing and them just not having the guts to say no one will be hired? I dunno just angry and sad at the same time. I need a job so bad. I just needed to vent but need a smile right now so i am gonna post a kitty pic. They make me happy. hugs to all

     

    funny pictures of cats with captions
    more animals

     

    funny pictures of cats with captions
    more animals

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    First Success Story

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 11:38 AM [General]

    Here is the first success story - should show up on the aggregate SS page...

     

    Details section to follow...

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    Ros-Lehtinen colgó el teléfono a Obama

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 12:38 PM EST [General]

    La congresista pensó que era una broma

     

    Ros-Lehtinen, quien representa al Distrito 18 y se encontraba trabajando en su oficina en el sur de Florida, recibió una llamada en su celular personal de un número proveniente de Chicago, y uno de sus asistentes le informó que Obama quería hablar con ella directamente.

    Obama se introdujo a Ros-Lehtinen al contestar la llamada, pero la congresista no lo dejó hablar y sencillamente le dijo: "Lo siento, pero creo que se trata de una broma más de esas que hacen aquí en una estacíón de radio local". Y acto seguido, la congresista le colgó el teléfono.

    Minutos después, el jefe del gabinete del presidente electo, Rahm Emmanuel, llamó de nuevo a Ros-Lehtinen y alegó: "Ileana, yo no puedo creer que le haya colgado dos veces al presidente electo".

    Ros-Lehtinen se defendió diciendo que ella no creía que la llamada era legítima, y también le colgó a Emmanuel.

    Luego, un miembro del equipo de la congresista le dijo que Howard Berman del Comité de Asuntos Exteriores necesitaba comunicarse con ella urgentemente.

    Al hablar, Ros-Lehtinen le pidió a Berman que confirmara una historia que sólo ambos conocen. Al relatar Berman la historia, la congresista reconoció que en efecto le había colgado al presidente electo.

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    Not a caption, but fun nonetheless

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 05:38 PM GMT [General]

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    Welcome to the J.C.V.D. Clique

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 12:37 PM EST [General]

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    Hasta cuando mi promesa de ser Fiel?

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 12:36 PM EST [General]

       Que pasa  Dios Mio, porque pones tentaciones en mi camino?

    Hace algun tiempo, me sentia completamente sola, aun estando rodeada de tanta gente, un dia te pedi que por favor me quitaras esa soledad, ese vacio que sentia y de repente un dia sin mas...aparece una persona muy especial...nada menos que por el internet... me levanta la autoestima, me  tiene muchas atenciones...y.. lo confieso...me esta moviendo el tapete.....

    Es que acaso...es una prueba para ver cuanto tiempo mas duro siendo fiel a mi esposo?

    Mmmmmm....es  la otra mitad que todo el mundo sabe que existe y no encuentra...pero hay un detalle....muy grave.....es casado.......y ...yo la verdad..no me arriesgaria...

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    Sobre Zumbazo.com

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 12:36 PM EST [General]

    Conectándote con tu comunidad.
     
    Zumbazo.com, es un directorio comunitario único en su tipo que sirve a la colectividad local de habla hispana y de cultura Latinoamericana por medio de acceso centralizado vía Internet, a listados detallados de negocios, eventos comunitarios, artículos y clasificados. Como servicio gratuito a la comunidad y una opción de publicidad a negocios y profesionales a un bajo costo, nos destacamos en facilitar conexiones importantes entre personas de la comunidad Latinoamericana local, negocios y organizaciones que le sirven.

    Por medio de nuestra distribución de información en español, Zumbazo.com permite a los miembros de la comunidad Latinoamericana acceder fácil y detalladamente a información necesaria para el diario vivir en su idioma natal.

    Adicionalmente, por nuestro compromiso y apoyo a la comunidad Latinoamericana, Zumbazo.com provee recursos gratuitos a profesionales y consumidores a través de nuestro boletín electrónico, al igual que cuentas gratis en los listados para todas las organizaciones de servicio social y artístico.

     
    In English:
     
    Connecting you to your community.
     
    Zumbazo.com is a unique community directory serving local Spanish-speaking and Latin American cultural communities with centralized Internet access to detailed business listings, community events, articles, and classified ads. As a free community service and a low-cost online advertising option for businesses and professionals, we strive to facilitate important connections among people in local Latin-American communities and the businesses and organizations that serve them.
     
    Through our distribution of information in Spanish, Zumbazo.com enables members of the Latin-American community to easily and more fully access local information for their daily living in the primary language of their culture via the Internet.
     
    Additionally, out of our commitment to supporting the Latin-American community, Zumbazo.com provides on-going free resources to professionals and consumers via our e-newsletter as well as free listing accounts for all arts and social service organizations.

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    A Special Thank you to WWE for the Tribute to The Troops..

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 05:35 PM GMT [General]

    Well this is the best Idea WWE has a done... Well I know the Tribute to the Troops has been going for a couple of years.

    But I still glad WWE are still doing it.. When you see the happiness in Service Men & Women's face you know it is worth doing it..

    For one thing.. It it a Blessing to be able to read the Blogs from the Superstars saying how much they feel humbled by the experience.. Well the Troops seem to really look forward to it.. Even Volunteering help WWE Setup the Ring & stuff.

    So it just proves this exercise is worthwhile..

    With WWE Showing their appreciation for the Servicemen & Women who put there life on hold & of Course on the line.. Ever Day..

    It must be really tough for them not having there families there to support them.. So this Treat from WWE will boost their morale..

    So this blog is just to show some appreciation to both the Troop for what they are doing & WWE Representives.. Put the time & effort in  to make the trip.

    So I thank every WWE Representive who is there including.. the WWE Superstars, WWE Divas, WWE Engineer's, Joey Styles, Michael Cole, Etc..

    While the Tribute for the Troops is mainly American thing..

    I can still get into the spirit of it.. Even thou I not an American.. I can still show my appreciation for them.. As they are there for there Country and doing a great job.. I can respect that.

    So I can show appreciatioin with this Blog..

    Also with WWE Superstars & Joey Styles, Michael Cole + Mickie James, etc. putting up Blogs up..

    It is Interesting & facinating read there thoughts on the trip & also getting an insight in to the life's of the service men & Women via the Shout Out's in the Blogs.

    So I just wanted to Thank you all...

    Heart felt Love from Jam1919..

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    Beyonce Donates Her Salary?!

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 12:35 PM EST [General]

    If you thought Beyonce's I Am...Sahsa Fierce was over the top, well guess what she's doing now?--She's donating all of her salary from Caddilac Records in full to the Phoenix House rehab program for women.  Inspired by her role of Etta James, who has a drug addiction at one point in her life, Beyonce spent a lot of time at the facility and sympathized with the women.

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    First Workout Plan

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 11:35 AM [General]

    Here is the first workout plan - should display in the workout plan aggregate page...

     

    Daily details to follow...

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    Candy Girl

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 10:35 AM MST [General]

    I wrote this the other day... thinking about when the hell I was gonna see Candace again...   haha... every time I re-read this I start laughing...  If you knew me and my party crew you would die laughing too...



    CANDY GIRL

    Up in the morning, and off I go
    another endless day without much else to say
    time is ticking and my hands are bleeding , too much too little
    Need an escape from today till tomorrow

    Trying to focus, my mind wanders,
    Time dragging on to nowhere makes me sick
    I'm just wondering when oh when will I see my Candy Girl again...
    Big bright smile, heart of gold..
    beautiful young soul with everywhere to go...
    I'm just wondering when oh when will I see my Candy Girl again...

    passing the day, checking my phone, all alone..
    waiting for that message to come and shake this dead end day
    maybe she'll tell me something to brighten up my day
    A little message to come my way... before the end of the day
    meeting up tonight or may be another day.... just makes me say..

    Trying to focus, my mind wanders,
    Time dragging on to nowhere makes me sick
    I'm just wondering when oh when will I see my Candy Girl again...
    Big bright smile, heart of gold..
    beautiful young soul with everywhere to go...
    I'm just wondering when oh when will I see my Candy Girl again...

    Lost hope, can't remember the feel
    longing to see what I can't see, enough is never enough
    once you've seen her you can't let go, knowing what you know and will never know

    over and over it feels hopeless , but even once fills the void

    Trying to focus, my mind wanders,
    Time dragging on to nowhere makes me sick
    I'm just wondering when oh when will I see my Candy Girl again...
    Big bright smile, heart of gold..
    beautiful young soul with everywhere to go...
    I'm just wondering when oh when will I see my Candy Girl again...

    When oh when will I see my Candy Girl again.... again.....

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    welcome 1 n all

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 12:34 PM EST [General]

    welcome

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    Theory of Relativity for kids

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 10:32 AM MST [General]

    Every night we have dinner on the weeks that I have my kids we discuss a specific topic.  We don't watch TV or anything brain killing like that.  A few days ago my oldest boy Anthony asked me just what e=mc2 really meant.  Since that's such a misunderstood term by the general pubic I had to ask him " are you talking about time travel or the geometry of the universe?".  Of course he said time travel. 

    Since it took me a little time to explain to him I figured I'd share this with everyone.  I'll break it down for you in 2 ways… the kid friendly explanation and a more scientific explanation.

    Kid Friendly version:

    In Einstein's famous Theory of (Special) Relativity, he laid down two basic concepts:

    The laws of physics are the same in all reference frames.   This means that they're all the same no matter when or where.

    The speed of light through a vacuum (like outer space) is the same and the person watching you will see what everyone else watching you will see.

    These concepts basically say that if you were moving through space with a constant speed and in a constant direction, the rate at which you would travel forward in time changes a little.  The idea it that the faster you travel through space, the slower you travel through time.   It's not the same as time travel but it tries to explain how time can be ' changed ' for the person watching you.

    In a nutshell it means that speed effects mass and this effect can be seen by anyone watching you, it also effects length as well. The faster you travel through space, the more massive you become and the thinner you become in the direction of your going. When they say time slows down for you according to people watching you it means your mass increases, and that your width changes.  This means that anyone watching you would see these effects.  To you, you're not moving and you measure your time, your mass, and your width as you always did, it should be just what you expect to see as if you weren't moving at all.   The main difference is for someone not moving along with you, they would see your clock, heart beat, etc. run slower than expected.  They would see your mass seem to increase.  If the person watching you were to push you, you wouldn't accelerate as much as they'd expect.  They would see your width in the direction of your motion as thinner.

    As much as I can type this in layman's terms, the concepts are hard to understand if you can't imagine you standing still while the world speeds by around you.  Given enough speed you would seem to travel through time. 

    Ok the big boy explanation, This took a lot more time to chart out.

    Einstein's theory says that the direction of light spread (propagation) should be changed based on gravitational forces (gravitational fields), this is totally different than what Newton predicted. Sciencitific observations seem to show that Einstein is right, both about the effect and its size.

    It's important to note that Einstein's theory discusses Special Relativity which is more in line with General Relativity and not Specific Relativity.  That's a whole different set of theories that have been somewhat altered by Einstein's, now accepted theories.

    The General Theory of Relativity predicts that light traveling in a vacuum (like outer space) and coming from a strong gravitational force should have its wavelength shifted to larger values (also called "red shift"), again contrary to Newton's theory. Once again, observations indicate such a (red) shift, and that its magnitude is correctly given by Einstein's theory.
    The electromagnetic field can have waves in it that carry energy we call light. Likewise, the gravitational field can have waves that carry energy and are called gravitational waves. These may be thought of as ripples in the curvature of spacetime that travel at the speed of light.

    The real variable here is the make up or geometry of the Universe.  Since space itself is curved, there are three general possibilities for the geometry of the Universe. Each of these possibilities is tied intimately to the amount of mass (the total strength of gravitation) in the Universe, and each implies a different past and future for the Universe:

    If space has negative curvature, there is insufficient mass to cause the expansion of the Universe to stop. The Universe in that case has no bounds, and will expand forever. This is termed an open universe.

    If space has no curvature (it is flat), there is exactly enough mass to cause the expansion to stop, but only after an infinite amount of time. Thus, the Universe has no bounds in that case and will also expand forever, but with the rate of expansion gradually approaching zero after an infinite amount of time. This is termed a flat universe or a Euclidian universe (because the usual geometry of non-curved surfaces that we learn in high school is called Euclidian geometry).

    If space has positive curvature, there is more than enough mass to stop the present expansion of the Universe. The Universe in this case is not infinite, but it has no end (just as the area on the surface of a sphere is not infinite but there is no point on the sphere that could be called the "end"). The expansion will eventually stop and turn into a contraction. Thus, at some point in the future the galaxies will stop receding from each other and begin approaching each other as the Universe collapses on itself. This is called a closed universe.

    Just as accelerating charges can emit electromagnetic waves, accelerating masses can emit gravitational waves. However gravitational waves are almost impossible to detect because they're so very weak and no conclusive evidence has yet been reported for their direct observation. They have been observed indirectly in the binary pulsar. Because the arrival time of pulses from the pulsar can be measured very precisely, it can be determined that the period of the binary system is gradually decreasing. It is found that the rate of period change (about 75 millionths of a second each year) is what would be expected for energy being lost to gravitational radiation, as predicted by the Theory of General Relativity.
    Today the best of generally accepted theories on gravitation is the General Theory of Relativity. However, only if velocities are comparable to that of light, or gravitational fields are much larger than those encountered on the Earth, do the Relativity theory and Newton's theories differ.

    So in a final analysis
    In a very careful analysis of exactly what time meant in a system that moves at speeds comparable with the speed of light, Einstein's theory showed that this principle of relativity still applied and that if a body emits energy in the form of radiation then its mass must be reduced by a proportional amount.   This is what the famous equation E=mc² means.

    Now you got it ?

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    thank you wwe

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 12:32 PM EST [General]

    this is my thank you to the wwe for coming and seeing my brothers and sisters in arms. in the past few weeks we have spent thanksgiving and soon christmas away from our loved one's. for me this is going to be my second christmas away from my loved ones, it is hard to be away but at the same time im proud of my life. i choose to join the army a few years ago and dont regret one day, even in the hard times. i know it must be hard for my family just as it is hard for me. so on this holiday i want to say thank you to the wwe, the fans on here that so us (the us armed forces) and most of all to my family for staying by myside even in the hard times. 

    spc abrahm flores

    1-14 a. co 2nd platoon 

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    Blast from the past

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 10:31 AM MST [General]

    It always intrigues me how a voice from the past can really make you think about things that you've tucked away for so very long.  Like a old friend you haven't spoken with in many years contacting you.

    Recently I was contacted by an old friend I went to high school with.  In fact she was an girlfriend for a short time.  The strange thing is that it's been more years since I've talked to her than she was old when I knew her, but the memories came right back as if it were yesterday.  Not just the romantic ones, but the whole time period and the time we shared.  Since it was such an awkward time in my life, being young and just starting to learn all about life,  it really was nice to hear from her.  In this specific case she had a twin sister that I also was infatuated with for a short time.  Even though they were twins I could always tell them apart and they were without a doubt two totally different people.

    The memories that it brought back were rather interesting.  For those of you who know me pretty well you would be almost shocked to have known me back then.  I was dirt poor, by family was just making it by, and by no means was anything in my life fancy.  I worked crap jobs just to have a car and gas money.  Going out to even a modest dinner with my girlfriend was a serious budget decision.  It's really a time when I was at the bottom of my ' life game ' , however it was some of the happiest and most memorable moments in my life.  I think this is true of most people, you just don't think about it.

    An interesting parallel fact is that even separated by half a country ( her family moved away ) our lives seemed to progress in the same basic path for things like Marriage, kids, keeping some friends, having young struggles, etc…  

    So the question is… are we predisposed to all do the same basic things?  Do we really have that much of a choice in what we do after we become adults?  After you have the primary responsibility of providing your own roof, food, cloths, etc things seem to all go the same direction.  I'm blessed with my success and have lots of options these days, however as little as 10 years ago my options were on a one way track to having a fairly simple and normal life.  On that note does success really equal happiness?  Money can't buy you love or actual happiness, but the lack of it can definitely bring your misery and hardship.  This is life, right?

    In this specific case I remember the heartbreak of loosing her at the end of our short relationship, but the thing is … I have nothing but good memories when I reflect back on them now.  I found it hard to think of things that weren't positive, and even the things that I could remember that were negative were in the form of things that I was laughing at now.  Thus is life as you grow older.  The sifting of feelings and emotions distills down to pretty much just the good things.  I know this sounds odd indeed coming from me, the guy that enjoys the lifestyle that I do, and likes to party like no tomorrow…. At least from those of you how know me on that level.

    So the next question is… just how much does your early dating experiences mold your future relationships?  In this case the empirical data would say that early dating experiences impact your future in a big way.  In my case I dated a lot in High School and found that in most relationships there was so much time spent on being jealous and making poor decisions based solely on who I was dating.  I see this everyday now even within our close friends that we party with.  One person can't go someplace because the other can't go with them, or if someone talks to their boyfriend in even the lightest of flirty ways they become very upset, and god forbid if either one of them exchange phone numbers with someone… even an old friend… it's a mini-war.  This is just silly at all levels.  At its core if your girlfriend or boyfriend is only such because you have to stand next to them 24/7 then you're relationship will end at some point no matter what you do.  If your relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend is predicated on the notion that things only work as long as you are right next to them then you're fooling yourself.  Those never last because you end up spending so much time just ' keeping it together ' that in the end that's all you have.  In my life I'm blessed with a wonderful woman who not only makes me extremely happy, but also respects me and allows me to be me.  I use those words carefully because on any given night I might be much more playful than any of our friends relationships would ever be able to handle, but believe it or not it's ok.  This is because of realistic expectations set forth when we first started dating.  We had a very frank discussion about who we both were, what we wanted and why or why not those things could be had together.  The proof is in the pudding… we've been together for almost 5 years now.    Much more important than that there's no jealous monster hanging around everywhere we go.  I think this is what allows us to have just a great time no matter where we go.  Sure we have our arguments and in some cases one of us will cross a boundary, but since there are so few of them and the ones we have are so well defined it's not a common thing.  I think I can trace this all the way back to my dating days in high school.  I knew what I wanted, and went for it.  I ran into the same issues I wanted to avoid each time because I wasn't up front about things.  There were no reasonable expectations set from the start and discussed along the way.  There was just an overwhelming desire to be with a specific person at a specific time.  All those relationships were doomed from the start because after all, I was working this in reverse.  Trying to cross my fingers and see what happened, not just laying it out in the beginning.

    This is just one small aspect of the growing up phase we all have to go through.  So many of our friends are still at what I feel is an immature relationship growth stage that it's a coin toss if any of them will be a couple in a year or two.  While the concept of a two or three year relationship is forever in most peoples immediate minds the reality is that it's not.  Don't misunderstand I'm not faulting any of my friends, I'm just commenting on what I see from the perspective of being a bit older and already have gone down those paths many times in my life.  I'm also using the experiences of my very long time friends as a sample as well.  I love my friends to death, and I wish them all the best in love and happiness.  The reality is that history had proven that a large percentage of them won't make it unless they address some of growth issues now, rather than later.

    The last question in this rant is …. Can you be friends with an Ex –girlfriend ?  This is a piece of string question.  I believe that you most certainly can, given the right conditions.  For starters there needs to be a degree of time spent apart, not something hard since most breakups usually leave one side not really liking the other too much.  The next thing is that you've moved on to someone new or just moved on without reservation.  This is the tricky one.  This again usually requires a degree of time.  I'm not talking about a few weeks, but rather at least 6 months or more.  In my personal case I've re-connected with several old girlfriends from my past and become friends again with them.  Usually there have been years since the last time we even saw each other and in all cases life moved right on in the meantime.  Now they're just like new friends that you're already comfortable with and have something to talk about right from the start.  It's a very special feeling to be able to re-strike a friendship from so long ago, as if the time between was just a mere moment in grand scheme of things.

    Comments anyone ?

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    Heavy handed police

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 05:30 PM GMT [General]

    Is it just a coincidence that the police have become more and more powerful under a Labour government? Heavy handed tactics, based on dodgy evidence, such as those used in the Damian Green arrest have become almost commonplace.

    The police argue that they are 'only doing their jobs' but where has the proportionality aspect of UK policing gone, the common sense and intelligent decision making?

    Our police get paid a good wage, with good benefits, and on the whole appear to be a fairly bright bunch, but some of their actions belie this. If it's just a case of meeting badly set targets it shouldn't be too hard to remedy, but there seems to be a more sinister aspect to the actions of our police.

    Within the police itself nobody appears to be asking 'is this right?', no matter how over the top or political the action appears to be. Middle-England used to be staunchly pro-police, but in recent years that support has dwindled and turned to suspicion and anger.

    The authoritarianism of our government needs its foot soldiers and they seem to have willing recruits in our police force. Surely it's time for the police themselves to make a stand for justice and proportionality, something that they should have been doing all along?

     

     

     

     

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    Is so much available porn causing men to disconnect from real women ?

    Friday, December 5, 2008, 10:30 AM MST [General]

    Someone sent me a link to an interesting article about how porn and the proliferation of the same has more or less made men desensitized to real women.  The article was written from a womans point of view and tried to psychoanalyze the reasons of such and make the connection to graphical images of sex (porn) being far too available.

    Those of you who know me, know that I'm going to be the first to jump up and dispute such a finding.

    My opinion on the issue is quit different of course.  I see it more as consumer mentality and much less of a ojectified fixation as the author of the other article would like to paint a picture of.

    In my opinion the proliferation of porn has done something that is wholly different.  It's made us much more aware of what else is out there.  For the most part the attraction to porn isn't the striking beauty of the performers, but the specific acts in which they are engaging.  In fact very little attention is usually spent on the fine details of their looks.  It's this availability of knowing what else is out there that causes a lot of men to not seek a deeper relationship with most women.  It's not that their ugly, or as the other author put it " not porn worthy " , but rather it's that their just not 'likely' to be into some of the things that younger men desire.  It's just like a consumer who want to shop for a new TV.  If all he knows is the local TV store, and his whole world of TV is limited to what that store sells, then he'll settle for what's available in that single store.  Just a few models to choose from.  Then one day a Wallmart opens up in town and now he sees that instead of 4 different TV's there are at least 50, and from what he can see he knows there are even more out there.  Giving this situation the buyer is no longer satisfied with just anything the salesman is pushing, he now has choices and desires, and can now seek some education is all that is TV.  Does this make him an ****?  Is he now seeing all TV's as simple objects?  It he simply unwilling to select a TV because of too much exposure to other TV's?  The answer is no.  The root of the issue is now he knows of the larger world out there and will make the salesman work for his sale.

    This is entirely my argument against those who would say that allowing porn to exist or be readily available causes men to disconnect from real women.  The real issue here is that in todays free society (ie. The United States) women are no longer being chases like they used to, now they have to work a little for the man that they want.  Those that make it known that their mutual likes and desires are shared will have first pick at a mate.  Does this make those women sluts?  Again the answer is no.  It's makes them a better salesman.  Are these women NOT real women ?  Of course they're real women.  The problem is that they present a real threat to much more conservatitve women.

    As an example if I met a woman who was a member of Oprah's book club I wouldn't ask her out to dinner.  Why?  Is it that I can't seek a connection with real women?  Again the answer is no.  The issue here is that I'm sure enough that demographic isn't into what I'm into sexually.... at least sure enough not to waste my time finding out.  Since (as a man) I want to have sex on a regular basis this doesn't get me anywhere.  Thus the waste of time point of view.  This is an extreme example but it really drives home the point.

    Real women today are the same as they were 20 or 30 years ago.  The same cross sections of straight, bi, gay, etc... those that love anal, and those the would never give head.  They all still exist in about the same numbers.  Why does it seem that more women are into more things these days, or that a man can get a woman who's into whatever he is, much more than before?  The answer is that the available information is much easier to get.  In days past those girls were viewed as sluts for wearing cloths that showed off their bodies, or if they slept with you after only 2 dates, etc...  Well now that most everyone can see that this type of thing happens everywhere it's not such a shocker, and it's much harder to simply discount away those to do it.

    With the sheer volume of free Internet porn, especially the amateur porn you get a good idea real quick that 1000's of girls in your local area are into the same things you are sexually.  You can tell simply because their showing you their willing to do it.  What does this mean for the more conservative girls out there ?  It's means some really good things I would think.  It means that you're much more likely to meet someone who really likes you for you, and not because they think they can get you to do things down the road that you wont.  

    This also means one very major departure from the years old tradition of playing the total guessing game in dating.  Years ago a man would have to simply roll the dice and spend lots of time and effort to date a girl.  If things did end up in a sexual encounter then the man would still be rolling the dice to a degree.  That is unless his desires were very basic to start with.  Some men are ok with that.  Count me (and most other men) out of that sad group.

    The author of the other article did hit one thing directly on point.  Long gone are the days where the figure & form of the female body were some sort of mystery or some sort of prize to discover.  When girls covered up most of their bodies and in some cases faces just to keep that mystery alive.  Keeping it secret until the one they choose was lucky enough to experience it.  Well I have some sobering news for women who cling on to that concept.  It's LONG GONE.  In modern America you're very likely to be the outcast and the one who has to try much harder.  It's a complete role reversal.

    I used to have a saying that sex for a man is work, and sex for a woman is just a choice.  This meaning that a guy has to really try hard to sleep with a girl, but the girl can have sex by just letting it be known she's willing.  This is still true for some with less than skillful social skills, but more and more every day that gap lessens.  

    The saying I use now is perfect for this article..... " you would be real surprised at what you can get, if only you would ask ".  This means that you need to speak up and lay it out for a potential mate.  Let them know right up front what you like, expect, desire, would be happy with, etc....  Then everyone has my next favorite phrase... " realistic expectations"

    Is porn to blame?  Maybe Wallmart and superstores that program us to have a million choices are to blame....  who knows?  The reality is that once you know there is something else out there, it's just a matter of how willing you are to go after it.  After all it is a ' free market' world we all live in :)

    In any event porn isn't ruining the modern relationship, it's the views of the conservative movement that's doing it to themselves.

    I'll leave you with my daily motto.... " treat the problems, NOT the symptoms"  Solve the issues, not butter up just to make it more livable.

    I welcome any thoughts on this......

    Peace !

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